The other woman I am writing about today is a daughter and wife at this point in her life. Again, as I posted in my last blog: Did she win a nobel prize? Is she famous? Do most of you even know her? The answer to all that is no. She's just "some girl" who lives down the street from her dad in Bedford who is married, has a couple of dogs, likes whisky (like I do), works a full time job and also goes to university. So why am I writing about these two women? Because unlike Cis and Dot Caron (Part 1 - Grand Dames), these two lovely young ladies are from the same generation as my daughters: the "Yers". These women are in their 20's to early 30's. Labelled as tech savvy, educated, focused, family-centric, achievement/team oriented and attention craving. Let me explain the last one especially as it's not what it seems. They are a generation of women who look for guidance and feedback. They like being kept in the communication loop and openly seek and benefit from having mentors. This generation put themselves first with regards to their choices about education, marriage, beliefs, religion, etc... AND if/when ready to have children are more likely to find a balance between home life and work. Choosing to stay home for the first years or making arrangements through work (if either is possible) with the end result being to make their work hours more flexible. They have a completely different vision of workplace expectations and try to prioritize family over work. It's what my mother's generation fought for and my generation struggled to find. So here is what I love about Alwynne and Kat's story. It was shaped by men; more importantly their dads. This in my opinion is where the shift in society has clearly taken place. Men stepped in and did the most wonderful thing. They raised their daughters.
|Side by side....|
Men who chose to take on the responsibility of raising daughters. Keyword: CHOSE.
|Adele - Before?|
|Adele - After?|
|I rest my case....|
I digress... As I do sometimes (sorry... hehe). I guess the point I am trying to make is that some women from this generation had fantastic role models, some not exactly maternal or even related to them but in the end it is what I think made the difference. The fantastic part of being the parent for the children of this generation is watching them soar. The hardest part: Letting go. Especially of our little girls. The world can still seem like such a cruel place for women at times. I would like to think that we have prepared the Alwynne's, Kat's, and Erica's (mine) of today. Chances are bad things will still happen but I have a sense of pride in knowing that whatever they decide they will be ok. That their voices will be heard when it needs to be and gender injustices will continue to melt away. My mother's generation was angry and opened the door to change. My generation put the laws in place and started the change. The Y generation is by far more educated and they are in a position to create global change, but it takes time. We have come a long way since Betty Friedman published The Feminine mystique in 1963 (50 years exactly....) In an interview in 1982 she stated she envisioned a future where women and men raised their children together, where the duties of the family as a whole would be fair. Where women would be in positions to create change in a peaceful manner and that their husbands would be there to support them. She died in 2004 so I'm not sure if she thought we had achieved that or not. What I do know is that looking at the women like my daughter, Alwynne and Kat, I have a sneaking suspicion we have.
To all the women who came before us paving the way and for those to come I leave you with this, my favorite quote from Betty Friedman, 1963: "Some people think I'm saying, Women of the world unite - you have nothing to lose but your men. It's not true. You have nothing to lose but your vacuum cleaners"
Looking far ahead on the whisky trail, I remain... Grandaughter, Daughter, Mother (and maybe Grand Mother before I'm 50)...
|Me & Erica now... Girl's night facials|